Gaming and internet overuse

Gaming and time online can be a genuine source of connection, creativity and fun for young people. But when it starts crowding out sleep, schoolwork, friendships and family time, it's worth taking a closer look.

What it is

Gaming and internet overuse describes a pattern where screen-based activity - gaming, streaming, social media or browsing - begins to dominate a young person's time and attention to the point that other important areas of life suffer. Games and apps are often deliberately designed to be highly engaging, using rewards and social features that make it hard to stop. This doesn't mean all gaming is harmful; the concern is when it becomes difficult to control and starts causing real problems.

Signs to notice

• Difficulty stopping gaming or internet use even when asked repeatedly.
• Neglecting schoolwork, chores, hygiene or sleep in favour of screen time.
• Irritability, anger or distress when access is limited.
• Loss of interest in previously enjoyed offline activities and friendships.
• Using gaming or the internet to escape difficult emotions, boredom or stress.
• Lying about how much time is spent online.

What helps

• Set clear, consistent limits on screen time, agreed on together where possible rather than imposed suddenly.
• Build in regular offline activities - sport, family time, hobbies - that offer their own sense of reward.
• Keep gaming devices out of bedrooms overnight to protect sleep.
• Stay curious about what the gaming or internet use is providing - connection, escape, achievement - and look for ways to meet that need elsewhere too.
• Model balanced screen habits yourself.
• Avoid framing it purely as a battle of wills; approach it as a shared problem to solve together.
• Notice what kind of gaming or online activity it is - social, competitive, creative - as this can help you find offline equivalents that offer a similar sense of achievement or connection.

When to reach out for help

Seek professional support if screen use is significantly affecting school performance, sleep, physical health or relationships, if a young person becomes highly distressed or aggressive when limits are set, or if they seem unable to cut back despite wanting to. A professional can assess whether this reflects a compulsive pattern needing focused support.

Getting help in South Africa

Cleared Mind's EAP counsellors can help families address gaming and internet overuse, including underlying stress or difficulties it may be masking. SADAG's Mental Health Line (011 234 4837) offers further guidance and referrals for young people and parents.