LGBTQ+ youth support

For LGBTQ+ young people, the ordinary challenges of adolescence can come with added layers of pressure - around identity, acceptance and safety. Warm, informed support from the adults around them matters enormously.

What it is

LGBTQ+ refers to young people who identify as lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, queer, or under another part of the diverse spectrum of sexual orientation and gender identity. Working out and expressing this identity is a normal part of development, but LGBTQ+ youth can face additional stress from stigma, discrimination, family rejection or fear of not being accepted, which can affect mental health and sense of safety. South Africa's constitution protects the rights of LGBTQ+ people, but lived experience of acceptance still varies widely across families and communities.

Signs to notice

• Withdrawal, anxiety or low mood, especially around family gatherings or certain social settings.
• Reluctance to share aspects of their life or relationships.
• Fear of rejection expressed directly or through avoidance of the topic.
• Signs of bullying or exclusion at school or in social circles.
• Increased secrecy about friendships or online activity.

What helps

• Make clear, early and often, that your love and acceptance aren't conditional on their identity.
• Educate yourself rather than expecting them to explain everything - there's a wealth of accessible information available.
• Use the names and pronouns they ask for; this is a simple but powerful sign of respect.
• Connect them with supportive communities or role models where possible.
• Address any family or cultural tension calmly and privately, rather than in front of them.
• If you're struggling to come to terms with it yourself, seek your own support rather than placing that burden on them.
• Where extended family or community attitudes are less accepting, help the young person identify at least one or two spaces - a friend, a supportive relative, a community group - where they can feel fully themselves.

When to reach out for help

Seek professional support if a young person shows signs of significant anxiety, depression, self-harm, or if family rejection is putting their safety or wellbeing at risk. A counsellor experienced in LGBTQ+ youth support can help both the young person and the family navigate this together.

Getting help in South Africa

Cleared Mind's EAP counsellors provide confidential, affirming support for LGBTQ+ young people and their families. SADAG's Mental Health Line (011 234 4837) can offer guidance and referrals. If a young person is in immediate distress, SADAG's Suicide Crisis Helpline (0800 567 567, SMS 31393) is available 24 hours a day.