Suicide bereavement

Losing someone to suicide is one of the most painful losses there is. On top of grief, survivors often carry shock, guilt, anger, and endless "why" and "what if" questions. This grief is complicated - and it is not your fault.

What you might feel

• Guilt or replaying "signs I missed" (hindsight is not foresight - you could not have known what you know now)
• Anger at the person, yourself, or others
• Shame or fear of judgement, which can lead to isolation
• Shattered assumptions about life and safety

What helps

• Talk to people who will not judge - ideally others who understand suicide loss
• Let go of blame; suicide is complex and never down to one person
• Take grief in small pieces; be gentle with anniversaries
• Look after your own safety - suicide loss can raise your own risk, so reach out if you struggle

For the workplace or community

Safe, honest support and avoiding blame or dramatic detail helps everyone heal (this is called postvention).

Getting help in South Africa

SADAG runs support for the bereaved: 011 234 4837. Cleared Mind counsellors can walk with you.

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In immediate danger? SADAG Suicide Crisis Helpline (24h): 0800 567 567 or SMS 31393. SADAG Mental Health Line 011 234 4837. SAPS 10111, ambulance 10177, GBV 0800 428 428.